I know you feel empty. I remember those feelings all too well. I know you feel broken. So did I. I know you feel unlovable, but you are loveable. I know you struggle with your self-worth but darling, you’re worth it.
Your worth isn’t measured in someone’s absence. It’s not measured by a man. It’s not measured by the friends you have. The car you drive, or the job you do or don’t hold.
Your worth is in remembering who God says you are; who you say you are.
If he didn’t value you, then he did you a favor by leaving so that someday, someone could love you the way you deserve to be loved. But in the meantime, dear, press into God. Embrace your loneliness, until you learn that the true definition of loneliness is not the act of being alone from other’s presence, but the act of being surrounded by people who don’t engage you fully.
Darling, you are worth being made a priority and you should accept nothing less. Your are worth having your dreams come true, but not by anyone but you. Don’t wait for someone to save you. You aren’t a princess you don’t need to be rescued. You my dear are a Queen, you’ve got this shit handled. Remind yourself. Remind yourself daily what you are capable of, and what you are worth and then don’t settle.
Don’t ever settle again!
Model to your children what a strong independent woman looks like. Become a strong independent woman.
Get out of the house, do your damn make up and go on an adventure. Try new things. Explore the world around you, until you enjoy your own company.
Hit on fireman, wink at the construction worker. Become confident in you. Eat cake for breakfast. Laugh too loud, stay up too late. Find what makes you happy and stop doing the things that don’t!
I know you are hurt, I know you’re afraid. But darling face those fears. Your God is bigger and He’ll stand by you the whole time. He is your protector and your fortress, your strength in times of weakness. He is the only one who will never leave you. But dear, don’t treat God like the same accessory that you are used being treated like. Treat Him like the priority that you wish you would have been treated like. Press into Him.
When it comes to love my dear, embrace it. I know you are scared of being hurt again. Be cautions, but not skeptical. I know you feel hard to love but take chances. If he is worth it then he’ll make you a priority. If he doesn’t try to earn your love then he isn’t worth your time. If he runs from your brokenness and doesn’t try to earn your trust then don’t be sad when he leaves.
Be with someone who will chase you, not because you want him too, but because he’s afraid to lose you. Wait for the right one and let the rest go. Wait for someone who respects your boundaries. Wait for someone who isn’t afraid to say sorry. Wait for someone who isn’t afraid of your independence. Wait for someone who doesn’t make you guess if he’s into you. If you have to guess dear, then he’s not that into you. People make time for what is important to them. Quit making excuses for him. Wait for someone who makes you feel beautiful everyday.
Be vulnerable. Don’t allow past circumstance to hinder your emotions. Don’t allow your emotions to control you, that’s reckless. But face them darling, face them head on. Feel every one as they come up and then release it! Cry, laugh, love, get excited, get angry, be hurt, be disappointed. It’s ok, those feelings just mean you are alive. Give them to Jesus, lay them at His feet. Allow Him to show you what to do with each new feeling. Allow Him to heal you.
You my dear, are beautiful, and so worth it!